Signs that Indicate You’re Wasting Your Time in a Relationship
It’s in their eyes
One of the surefire indicators something has changed in their outlook can be seen in their eyes. Cast your mind back to those moments when you were in the first flushes of romance. You’d sit in a corner of a bar or restaurant, chatting for hours while the empty glasses piled up between you, staring lovingly into each other’s eyes. Did you frequently catch your partner looking your way appreciatively, even when you weren’t actually chatting? When you started making out, you knew you were really starting to click when you left the light on so you could observe each other’s reactions as you were being intimate.
Eye contact is a way of letting each other know how deep your feelings are for each other without any need to actually articulate the emotions. But if your partner stops making eyes at you, alarm bells should ring. Those casual glances in your direction stopping is one thing. But if you’re talking, one-on-one, and they don’t look at you, or seem easily distracted, they might as well just admit something’s up.
Your other half can let you know they’re always there for you by touching base, and the most convenient way to do this is via social media. Say your partner enjoys her girls nights out. Perhaps she is in the habit of posting hilarious snapshots of her friends’ antics, tagging you in the posts on Facebook or Instagram. You could even join in the fun by adding cheeky comments, ensuring a warm welcome upon her return.
If you stop getting tagged this is another red flag. If your position within her social circle has dropped from top status to after-thought, you can only be left wondering who has become her priority.
There are always clear signs a relationship is heading in a positive direction. Partners may be overworked at times or have family situations, but they will always ensure they factor-in precious moments for their significant other. If these date nights start diminishing, or there are frequent last-minute cancellations, then the time has come to get suspicious.
To conclude, it’s this willingness to commit time to your partner, or lack of it, that are among the most obvious signs a relationship has run its course. Even if you weren’t actually aware it had. This could be everything from not bothering to study holiday brochures, to answering your articulate texts with a singular emoji.
The reluctance to make eye contact is another dead giveaway, and this can extend to other aspects of non-verbal communication. A once tactile individual stops casually touching. Their libido flatlines; at least that’s the impression they give to you.
The bottom line is when someone’s emotional investment wanes, there are always signs. That’s human nature. The bigger question is how to react to them.